Radical Acceptance is one the hardest and most important skills I help my clients with as a therapist. In the words of Carl Rogers, "The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change."

Have you ever noticed that you seem to encounter the same "difficult" personality types in every job, or that your relationships follow a script you thought you’d burned years ago? In psychology, this is known as trauma re-enactment. It isn't a sign of weakness; it’s an unconscious attempt by the brain to gain mastery over an old wound by recreating it in the present.

In this article, I explore how to help clients escape the "Certainty Trap" and move from reactive to responsive. I cover three mentalization based interventions to reboot reflective functioning:
The Rule of Three: Building cognitive flexibility.
The Inside-Out Check: Monitoring "internal weather."
Semantic De-Fusion: Using language to create distance.

It is time to align our perceptions with the data. This post challenges outdated stereotypes about Borderline Personality Disorder, highlighting the efficacy of modalities like DBT and MBT. Learn why modern psychiatry views BPD not as a character flaw, but as a neurobiological vulnerability that responds profoundly to safety and structure.

Mentalization is the heartbeat of the therapeutic relationship. Discover how this core competency restores client agency, resolves the validation trap, and serves as the bedrock for effective therapy across all modalities.

Meaningful change begins when the effort of avoidance finally outweighs the discomfort of growth. But for trauma survivors, the 'unknown' often registers as a threat rather than an opportunity. This post explores the neurobiology of avoidance and the four clinical elements, including self-compassion and mentalization, that make true transformation possible.

Many people enter therapy feeling as though life is simply 'happening to them'. This is a common survival response to trauma or chronic invalidation. This article explores the concept of Agency as a critical component of recovery. Discover how Mentalization helps slow down automatic reactions to reveal the 'choice points' where true purpose begins

In personality disorder treatment, change does not come from agreement or reassurance. It comes from the relational space where feelings are validated and interpretations are gently challenged. LLMs tend to mirror the user’s perspective. Therapy requires a clinician who can hold emotional truth while staying anchored in reality. AI can support reflection, but the transformation comes from relationship.

Trauma recovery, whether from PTSD or Complex PTSD, moves through three stages: safety, processing, and reconnection. Each phase benefits from different treatments, from MBT and DBT for stabilization, to EMDR and other trauma-focused therapies for memory processing, to relational and values-based work for rebuilding meaning. Healing is not linear, but with the right pacing and support, people can move from surviving to living with clarity and purpose.

Autism in women is frequently under-recognized due to masking, internalized symptoms, and misdiagnosis. This article highlights recent research and discusses how Mentalization Based Therapy can help women understand their emotional experience and support sustainable well-being.

This post explains how common physical sensations can become intensified by anxiety and attention, and how changing the relationship to those sensations can reduce distress and restore a sense of safety in the body.

People with BPD often feel emotions deeply and want stable, trusting relationships. This post describes how DBT and MBT can help. Dr. Adam Henderson offers this care in Boston with a calm, collaborative approach.

Mentalization-Based Therapy (MBT) helps people understand their emotions and relationships with more clarity and steadiness. Dr. Adam Henderson offers MBT in Boston, supporting individuals and couples who want calmer communication, stronger connection, and a more grounded sense of self.